Nonfiction book recommendations and inspiring stories about how you can implement what you learn from personal development books into your life through experiments. A practical guide to lifelong learning through reading with a focus self growth and human nature.
Just like Rome wasn’t built in a day, this book is not read one either. It’s thousand pages covers almost all aspects of Roman civilization. . The broad scope is both it’s biggest strength and it’s weakness. While philosophy and statemanship holds my attention, Rome’s pottery and poetic traditions does not. This leads many highs and lows, but also to a holistic understanding of the workings of the empire. . 📝 “A great civilization is not conquered from without before it has destroyed itself from within.” 💥 . 📝 During this Saturnalia festival the relationship between slave and master was inverted. Slaves could disobey ordered without punishment. Sometimes they changed clothes with their master. They where served food and wine. The masters “didn’t eat until all their slaves where filled.”. A great way to keep control the slaves. This temporary relief must have kept the slave/master dynamic from reaching a boiling point. . 📝 “Moreover, I consider that Carthage should be destroyed.” – the line Cato ended all his speeches with in the Senate. #Montaigne more humble adage was “what do I know?” . I wonder what my adage will be? 🤔 😆 I want one! . 📝 Caesar epic nickname: “The Bald Adulterer” 👴🏻 . 📝 Caligula. the megalomaniac, took baths in perfume; had habitual incest with his sisters; sprinkled golds to the masses; ordered all bald men to be sent as food for the gladiatorial animals when animal food was in I’ll supply.
📝 Marcus Aurelius: Slept on the floor while his mother asked him to get on the coach. “He became a stoic before he became a man.” . 📝 Historically the belief in heaven and the belief in utopia are like compensatory buckets in a well: when one goes down the other comes up. . NEXT UP: The Story of Civilization: Volume 4: The Age of Faith. . ⚖️ VERDICT: I love that I’ve read this book but I don’t necessarily want to do it again. 😬 . 3/5
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This book will blow your mind with the latest research in the field of longevity. It talks about aging as a disease caused by loss of information—and that aging is not at all inevitable. . Rather, it’s could be much easier to cure aging itself than it’s symptoms I.e. cancer, heart disease and Alzheimer’s.
📝 Death and aging are not one and the same. “Aging is a disease.“
📝 Until today the molecules we have found that promotes longevity has been found by serendipity. Imagine what will happen when we intentionally start looking for them? There are so much going on in the field of aging that if only a fraction of the ideas works out, it will still have a profound impact on how we view aging.
📝 When self-driving cars eliminate most of traffic accidents then where will we get our organs from? Today most organs come from crash victims. An uncomfortable question that needs to be solved. 🤯😅
📝 Aging and Inequality: Just by living longer the rich are getting richer. And by getting richer they are living longer.♻️
📝 By engaging our bodies survival mechanisms in the absence of real adversity we will be able to push our lifespans far beyond what we can today. The question is how we best do that?
💭 THOUGHTS: Honestly, one reason why I’m so pshyced about the possibility of a longer life might be that I feel like I wasted a decade of my life by derping around—but also because life is so wonderful now that I’ve stopped derping!
💥 ACTIONS TAKEN: I started intermittent fasting (16:8/18:6) because it’s very likely to promote longevity. A surprising side effect has been that it also frees up time in the morning (no breakfast, no dishes etc.)
⚖️ VERDICT: The book is a bit too evangelical in it’s positive outlook on things to come. Regardless, I rank this as one of the most important and thought-provoking reads of this year.
⁉️What is the most thought-provoking book you’ve read this year?⁉️
Want to get more reading done despite a busy schedule or complicated life situation? Here are 4 hacks that help me hit byreading goals each year:
I’m not a fast reader. To be honest my reading speed was below average last time I checked – but I have a few tips to share on how to get more reading into a busy schedule! —— Here are four key ingredients to improve your reading habits: —— 🔹 Always bring a book 🔹 —— I always bring books wherever I go. You never now when you get stuck waiting in line, the subway gets delayed or when your friend is arriving late. Opportunities for reading appear more often than you think – if you are prepared for them! —- 🔹 Audiobooks are your Friends! 🔹 —- The Audiobook is the most powerful tool to increase your “reading” capacity. Gym time, walks and doing shores – all those times when your hands are occupied can be turned into an opportunities for reading and learning. —- 🔹 Have multiple books going! 🔹 —- I usually have 3 to 5 books going at ones. Why? That way I always have something that suits my mood and the situation I’m in. Just have a few minutes to read? Pick up a collection of amphorisnms. 30 minutes? Read a chapter on neuroscience. 2 hours? A historical biography might do the trick! —- 🔹 Consistency 🔹 —- Read everyday. Find a time slot you dedicate to reading, whether it’s on your commute, the gym or the first thing you do in the morning. It doesn’t matter when, or how long. Ones you get into the habit you will be astonished by the amount of books you’ll finish in a year or two. It really adds up! —— What’s your best lifehack for getting more reading done? 🤔
Being oversubscribed is about having more customers than you could possibly serve. Why would you want to be in that position? Don’t you want to be able to serve every possible client and make every $? . Not necessarily. Being oversubscribed allow you focus on the clients you already have and spend less time hunting new ones — freeing up valuable time for you to innovate your business. . Happy clients will rave about you and the limited supply of your product will make it more desirable; People will line up to do business with you! . This book goes through both the theoretical and practical aspects for setting up oversubscribed business. . 📝 “It’s the tension of high demand and limited supply that creates the opportunity for profit.” . 📝 “Your value is much higher than you think to a small number of people.” . 📝 “Lean into the discomfort of how much there is to be done.” Business is hard. This is good news for you. It keeps the wannabes and posers away. . 📝 “Give away ideas, charge for implementation.” Information is cheap these days. . 📝 Question to consider: How many customers do you need per year and how much do they need to pay? . 📝 Question to consider: What “special edition” can you make of your product? . ⭐️ TAKEAWAY: “Focus on your new paying customers instead of immediately looking for new ones.” Make your current clients happy, beat their drum, share their success stories, and they will sell your product for you. . ⚖️ VERDICT: This is now my favorite marketing book and it will be my map and compass going forward in business. . 5/5 . ⁉️What’s your side hustle?⁉️
He laid down on the floor of the hospital corridor as security guard approached. -“Sir, you can’t lie down here.” -“I’m sorry”, I said, gasping out the words. “Bad…back…spasms…” -“You still can’t lie down here, sir.” -“I’m sorry but—IM DYING FROM CANCER!”” . David was just arriving at his destination. Years of study followed by excruciatingly long hours of residency was suppose to pay off in high salaries, a big house and fulfilling work at the cutting edge of neuroscience. Instead he got terminal cancer. . 📝 “If the unexamined life was the not worth living, then is the un-lived life worth examining?” . 📝 His WHY: “What makes life meaningful enough to go on living.” . 📝 “In residency there is a saying: the days are long but the years are short.” 😂 . 📝 “To study philosophy is to learn how to die” – Montaigne 🧐 . 📝 “When Breath Becomes Air is in a sense unfinished. Derailed by Pauls rapid decline. But that is an essential component of its truth. Of the reality Paul faced.” He wrote relentlessly in his last months. What fueled this? Had his found a new passion? Or was this a causa sui project: A vessel that could create meaning beyond his own life? A way of coping with the terror of death? . ⭐️ TAKEAWAY: Let’s say that in order reach a goal of becoming a full-time philosopher we have to resolve our financial situation in a way that money becomes a non-issues. Does this mean that we do best to by spending 100% of our efforts towards our goal of financial freedom? Or are we better off doing 20% philosophizing while we build our wealth? This way it takes longer to reach our finances goals, but at least we get some philosophizing done in the case that death comes early. 🤔 💀 . ⚖️ VERDICT: This was a good memoir that put me in a reflective state of mind. If you are in the medical field it’s connect even more! . 3/5 . ⁉️What memoirs are on your to-read-list⁉️ . 📸: @joshuasavage (Instagram)
Is fear of being judged and rejected holding you back from greatness? . In this book we get to follow Jia Jiang crazy rejection journey to desensitize himself and build resilience through an experiment he called: 100 Days of Rejection. ——- The idea of rejection therapy is simple but powerful: get rid of fear of rejection by putting yourself in situations where you are very likely to be rejected. Do it on a regular basis. The frequent exposure to rejection is meant to desensitize you from the pain and shame rejection often bring. ——- 📝 “…people who, like me, viewed rejection as something so painful, so personal, and so negative that they would rather not ask for things, rather conform to the norm, and rather not take risks just to avoid the possibility of rejection.
📝 ”The worst part is that the “what if’s” that lingered in their mind were often caused by themselves because they didn’t even ask or didn’t even try.”
📝 The most common regret of the dying: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” . 📝 As we grow older we learn that we can’t always get what we want. But sometimes the pendulum swings to far and we get overly careful and timid. “When the time is right” we will ask, but the “right timing” never comes. . 📝 Use rejection as a tool to learn, adopt and improve. . ⭐️ TAKEAWAY By doing rejection challenges myself I realized that rejection and judgment was a bigger issue for me than I originally thought. I also quickly learned that exposure to rejection quickly builds confidence and lessen the fear. Furthermore I was surprised with how many say “Yes” when you ask. How much have I missed out on because I didn’t dare to ask?!
⚖️ VERDICT: The book is not a masterpiece. It feels like a collection of blog posts and writing style didn’t speak to me. But the idea of voluntarily seeking out rejection to build resilience and crush fear is powerful. Well, as long as you not just read about it, but take action that is! . 2/5 . ⁉️Are you your biggest obstacle sometimes?⁉️
Children of today are confident and powerful, This calls for powerful boundaries. . The phase of Omnipotence (14 months to around 2 years) is when children haven’t yet discovered that others have willpower too. A stage of conflict. . Today’s children exits this phase less fully than previous generations. The longer a child stay in this phase after the age of 3 the higher the risk of developing behaviors what could be diagnosed as a disorder. Something we in the west likes to threat with chemicals. 💊 . Joes doesn’t think this have to be the case. Instead should coach kids through the omnipotence phase by setting firm boundaries with clear consequences. . 📝 “This is just the way he/she is.” Maybe not. Look at the childs environment. Is there anything that encourages the child’s behavior? How are the adults acting? . 📝 “The accumulation of so many moments when adults has yielded their wishes and desires to the wishes and desires of the child results in an imbalance towards children developing power over connection.” . 📝 Rather small consequence immediately, than big consequences in the future. A 1-min pause now is a better consequence than canceling a cinema visit next week. . 📝 Children need to learn to deal with the frustrations of not getting what they want. . 📝 If your home is a place of unlimited choices, then don’t be surprised if your kid doesn’t like school! . 📝 “Giving children choices about some things is fine. But there should be many things during a child’s day when they don’t have a choice.” . 📝 It’s common to reason too much with toddlers. For toddlers action mean more than words.
💥 IMPLEMENTATION: I picked up this book because I looked help me with some issues I had with my 4 year old sons behavior; Not listening, hitting and throwing tantrums for not getting what he wanted. I used the technique from this book— the action-consequences, pauses, and even holding when my son threw real tantrums. It really worked and we have a much calmer home situation now. Most importantly, my son seems more calm, happy and confident. 😀
⭐️ TAKEAWAY: The parents job is to make sure inappropriate behavior has no reward. Be the coach not the opponent. Most importantly: “Always do what you say, 100 percent of the time”. . ⚖️ VERDICT: To the point and filled with great examples. A worthy read for parents and teachers who struggle with behavior problems. But be aware: I’m easily impressed, especially when it’s the first time I read something in a new genre. I guess if this book worked in -8 years or so 18 years or so!😂 . 4/5 . ⁉️Do you have children?!⁉️ . 📷: @nixiegraham
One thing that I’ve been wanting to do for a long time is to take a week each year where I focus solely on reflection and planning. —— Ideally, this would be a week where I locked myself in a cabin, alone, with a few note pads, a pen, and some carefully chosen reading material. Isolated and disconnected. —— The stay would help me realign, reflect and evaluate the year that’s gone by and what to do with the months ahead. —— This has not been working out with my current life situation. But you can’t wait for ideal conditions because then nothing will ever get done. Therefore I will do a scaled down version of the project this year. —— ⭐️ THE SETUP: ⭐️ —— 🔸 1 week of focus. 🔹 Start off with a day, alone, at a spa hotel to slow things down. (Best Christmas gift!! Thanks!). 🔸 Very Limited Internet use. 🔹 All down time dedicated to meditation, reflection, planning. 🔸8 hours of sleep for optimal creativity. 🔹Limited input from books, podcasts, tv etc. 🔸Limited output in terms of content creation, messaging, DM:s and everything else. (Have prepped 😉). 🔹 No alcohol. ——————————————-
⭐️ DESIRED OUTCOME: ⭐️
🔸 A detailed 6-months strategy. 🔹 Review of journals, notes and events from the last 12 months. 🔸 Tons of ideas for new projects. 🔹 A deeper understanding of where I’m heading. 🔸Updated and re-evaluated short, mid and long term goals in all aspects of life (Health, Wealth, Relationships and Purpose) ————- In 2021 I’ll do the real thing with cabin and whole shebang 😉 (No, not the punk band. I’m doing this alone.) ——————
⁉️ How do you ensure you are steering your ship in the right directions? What tools do you use? ⁉️
Let’s face it, successful people and unsuccessful people have the same goals. It’s the systems and strategies you put in pace that makes the difference between the two.
“You don’t rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the levels of your systems.”
James Clears book is the ultimate guide to the WHYs and HOWs of those systems.
Improvements are only temporary until they become who you are. You are not just going to read a book; you are going to become a reader. You are not going to run a Marathon; you are going to become a runner.
Make bad habits difficult to perform and good habits easy: prep your gym bag the day before and put by the front door. Bring a book everywhere you go. Move candy and snacks from the kitchen to the cellar. Remove the batteries from the remote after watching tv if your struggle with bingeing.
Stack new habits on top existing ones! “After I brush my teeth, I floss”
“After I finish’s my morning coffee, l journal for 5 min.”
Don’t ask yourself HOW LONG it takes to build a habit but HOW MANY TIMES it takes to build a habit. Start small and get the reps in.
One of the most satisfying feelings is to make progress. Habit trackers and other forms of visual measurements can make your habits more satisfying by providing clear evidence of your progress. “Don’t break the chain”: Instagram is a habit tracker for me (“visual reading progress”) and to keep a streak alive (“posting at set intervals”)
The one-stop-shop for habit building.
⁉️ What habit did you build that you are proud of?!⁉️
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Except for a few naturals, most of us hates negotiation at first. We get nervous, our hands sweat and our thinking breaks down. ——- But it’s not really the person across the table that scares us; it’s conflict itself. Humans are made for living in tribes and getting along with the group is a natural priority for most of us. ——- I’m avoid conflict. I avoid negotiation. —— “The first step to achieving a mastery of daily negotiation is to get over your aversion to negotiating.” ——- This book changed my view of negotiation; I’m now in love with it! And a mostly due to the fact that we created Book Club/Implementation Group around this book where really put the tactics into immediate use in real life situation alongside our theoretilcal studies. ——- 📝 The Pinocchio Effect: The number of words grows with lies. When people lie they use more words. ——- 📝 “No, is the start of negotiation, not the end of it.” The truth of this simple statement became clear to me when I payed attention to how I negotiated with my son. Once I had said “no” to one of his request was usually the time when I would opened myself to hearing him out. That’s when I was ready to consider the possibles and we could work something out together. ——- 📝 The real meaning of ‘no’: 🔸I’m not yet ready to agree. 🔹You are making me feel uncomfortable. 🔸I do not understand. 🔹I don’t think I can afford it. 🔸I want something else. 🔹I need more information. 🔸I want to talk it over with someone else. ——- ⭐️ TAKEAWAY: The Accusation Audit is a favorite tool of mine that I used a lot recently (swipe for example). “You make a list of every unreasonable, unfair, crazy, ridiculous accusation your gut instincts are picking up that the other side might say about you.” When we acknowledging negatives they lose their power. ——— ⚖️ VERDICT: If Atomic Habits is the definite book on habit building than this is definite book on negotiation. It can seem a bit manipulative, but if you see past that—and make an effort to use the tools in this book in everyday life with no delay—then it might be the most valuable reading you will do this year. —— 4/5 ——- ⁉️ What are your favorite negotiation tactic?⁉️
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