Notes from a Year of Reading – Psychology

๐Ÿ“ โ€œIt takes a lot of courage to take the unconscious seriously and to tackle the problems it raises.โ€

– Carl Jung, Man and his Symbols.

๐Ÿ“ โ€œAs a rule, whatever we donโ€™t deal with in our lives we pass on to our children.โ€

– Gabor Matรฉ, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts.

๐Ÿ“ โ€œSometime educated guesses can be made about the wounds of childhood by closely inspecting what matters adults irrationally lose their tempers overโ€

– Clarissa Estes Pinkola, Women Who Run with the Wolves.

๐Ÿ“ โ€œThose with a negative attitude tend to operate from a basic position of fear towards life.They unconsciously want to limit what they see and experience to give them more control.โ€

– Robert Greene, The Laws of Human Nature.

๐Ÿ“ โ€œIn other words, the final terror of self-consciousness is the knowledge of oneโ€™s own death, which is the peculiar sentence on man alone in the animal

kingdom.โ€

– Ernest Becker, The Denial of Death.


Iโ€™m working my way through my notes from the last 12 months. I thought it would be interesting to share my notes by subject rather than per book.

Whatโ€™s your next read on human psychology?

(If you donโ€™t have one. Pick any of the books above and youโ€™ll be good!๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ˜‰)

Favorite Books of the Year 2018: โ€œIn the Realm of Hungry Ghostsโ€ – Gabor Matรฉ

๐Ÿ’‰ An excellent introduction to the complex problem of addiction. Dr. Gabors is specialized in its study and treatment. His book offers powerful portraits of his patient lives, the story of his own addictive behaviors and the path to recovery.

๐Ÿ“ โ€œAs a rule, whatever we donโ€™t deal with in our lives we pass on to our children.โ€

โญ๏ธ TAKEAWAY: Regardless of your degree of addiction or whether your drug of choice is heroin, TV, food or shopping – reading the stories and research presented in this book will help to shine a light on your own addictive tendencies.

This year I got rid of two addictions: Nicotine (snus) and caffeine. ๐Ÿšฌโ˜•๏ธ

Read the full list of favorites or check out previous lists right here!

Thoughts on: โ€œIn the Realm of Hungry Ghostsโ€ by Gabor Matรฉ

Dr. Gabors is specialized in the study and treatment of addiction. His book offers portraits of his patient lives, stories about his own addictive behaviors, it examines the causes behind addiction and it breaks down the path to recovery.

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He opposes the weight thatโ€™s been put on the genetic component of addiction and points at stresses in early childhood (even pre-natal stresses) as the main risk factor. He is a big proponent of more compassion in societyโ€™s view of addicts and explains the futility of the โ€œwar on drugsโ€.

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An excellent introduction to the complex problem of addiction!

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๐Ÿ“ โ€œAs a rule, whatever we donโ€™t deal with in our lives we pass on to our childrenโ€ -Our unfinished emotional business becomes theirs.

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๐Ÿ“ Addiction = Fear of emptiness.

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๐Ÿ“ Proximal separation: Physically there but mentally absent when parenting. Children experiencing this look to use external couping mechanisms like thumb sucking or tuning out. These kids have great chances of seeking refuge in drugs later on in life.

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๐Ÿ“ Gabors recommends the teachings of Eckhart Tolle and the book Rosenbergโ€™s book โ€œNon-violent Communicationโ€ (I just got it!)

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๐Ÿ“ Circumstances for brain development differs. Some have had positive experiences that others have been deprived of. Think about this before you judge.

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๐Ÿ“ Parents, and mothers in particular, are getting less and less of the suppport they need during their childrenโ€™s early years. This is a cultural breakdown of cataclysmical scale. Therefore the raise in adhd.

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๐Ÿ“ โ€œAll problems are psychological, but all solutions are spiritualโ€

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๐Ÿ“ โ€œOnly healthy nurturing relationships with adults will prevent kids from getting lost in the peer world. A loss of orientation that leads rapidly to drug use.โ€

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โญ๏ธ TAKEAWAY: Regardless of your degree of addiction or whether your drug of choice is heroin, TV, food or shopping – reading the stories and research presented in this book will help to shine a light on your own addictive tendencies.

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My struggles have been with nicotine and refined carbohydrates. Whatโ€™s your addictions? ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ˜€

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PS: The audiobook version of this book is excellent!

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5/5

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A reading update! All over the place as usual!

No book review this week due to stomach flue. ๐Ÿคฎ

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But I thought I could share an update on whatโ€™s going into my mind these days!

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๐Ÿ“– โ€œIn the Realm of Hungry Ghostsโ€ – Gabor Matรฉ, M.D.

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Absolutely brilliant book about addition. Dr. Matรฉ is sharing his experience working with addicts in Vancouver worst drug districts. His book provides us with a more sympathetic and informed view in addition. I canโ€™t put it down!

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๐Ÿ“– โ€œMan and his Symbolsโ€ – Jung & Co.

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Less than 100 pages left. A truly great book, even though the part Iโ€™m at now, about modern art and symbolism has been quite a snooze.

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๐Ÿ“– โ€œTransurfingโ€ – Vadim Zeland

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My antidote to the depressing feelings induced by Sebastian Jungers โ€œTribeโ€. Law of attraction and reality creation extravaganza. Itโ€™s โ€œout thereโ€, it kinda works, and itโ€™s fun! ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿป

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๐Ÿ“– โ€œThe Long Walk to Freedomโ€ – Nelson Mandela

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I have a hard time getting into this one for some reason. I just seem to choose Gabor Matรฉโ€™s book over it every single time.

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Enough about me – What Iโ€™m really interested to hear is what you guys and gals are reading? ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿค”