I have adopted many powerful principles the last couple of years that increased my baseline happiness levels. One of the big ones, second only to learning to stop giving a shit about what people might think of me and what I do (still W.I.P 😉) ,is the Stoic idea of being indifferent to thing that are not under ‘our direct control’.
The weather, death, traffic, other people, outcome of soccer games, train delays, sickness, international politics etc..
So much anger, anxiety and frustration has been avoided since I fully committed to this principle. What a great source of fulfillment and tranquility!
This book does a great job summarizing Stoic philosophy! Here’s some notes:
- Mindfulness of what is up to us and what’s not is one of the main remedies for emotional suffering.
- Set you intentions each morning and evaluate how you did each evening. Where did you act virtuously and where did you miss the mark? Review your actions and evaluate you conduct.
- ‘Men are disturbed not by things, but by the views which they take of them’ – Epictetus
- Novice Stoics should begin by training themselves each day:
1️⃣ To endure what they irrationally fear, or find aversive, with courage and perseverance.
2️⃣ To renounce, or abstain from, what they irrationally crave, through discretion and self-discipline.
- Outcome independence: The goal of a Sage (the Stoics ideal) would not be to benefit others, which is beyond his control, but rather simply do his best to benefit them. Like an archer firing a arrow, his work is done when he has done his best, weather or not he hit his target.
This is a great book (even excellent if you ignore its repetitive textbook nature) that provides a great overview of Stoicism. It’s also full of exercises on how to apply the philosophy to everyday life.
I still think Irvine’s ‘A Guide to the Good Life’ is the best starting point if you are curious about Stoicism (link in BIO). Which you should be! It’s an fascinating and very practical philosophy!
What principles have you picked up during the last couple of years that had major impact on your life?
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