Threats to our Creativity and Women Who Run with the Wolves

One of my favorite parts of this book revolve around the topic of self-sabotaging our own creativity:

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📝 “Some of the malevolent complexes’ favorite thieveries and punishments of women’s creativity revolve around promising the soul-self “time to create” somewhere of in the foggy future. Or promising that when one has several days in a row free, then the rumpus will begin at last. It’s hogwash.”

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This is just a way to suffocate the creative impulse further.

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Another great way of suffocating creativity is Only-iffing; Only if I had a such and such degree then my work would be decent. Only if I receive such and such thing…

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Many put their talents in the back burner:

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📝 “I’ve seen women insist on cleaning everything in the house before they could sit down to write…. and you know it’s a funny thing about house cleaning… it never comes to an end. Perfect way to stop a woman.” 🧹

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How do you nourish and protect your creative life? And if you don’t; How do you procrastinate? 🤔

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(And yes! A Review of Women Who Runs With The Wolves is coming soon!) 🐺

The Laws of Human Nature: Discover Your Dark Side

Recall Britney’s 2008 breakdown, Clinton’s sex affair and the behavior Nixon’s behavior in the White House before his resignation?

“When we experience those moments when people reveal their dark side, we see something come over their face; their voice and body language of altered— almost as if another person is confronting us, the features of the upset child suddenly becoming visible” – Robert Greene

Carl Jung called it The Shadow.

The Shadow consists of all the qualities we try to deny about ourselves and repress. You can try really hard to cover up these aspects but they will pop back up sooner of later. You can see glimpses of it showing from people in moments of stress.

“You can throw out Nature with a pitchfork, but she’ll always come back.”

Hiding The Shadow side of yourself takes energy. You must be adept to see when The Shadow is appearing in yourself and others.

The Shadow also tends to show more with age. “Later in life we tire of the masks we have been wearing, and the leakage is greater.”

I’ve started to study Jung but I haven’t read up on the concept of The Shadow yet. What I’ve got from The Laws of Human Nature is an introduction that left me wanting to know more – What reading do you recommend on the Shadow and Shadow work? Let’s confront our dark sides! 🤔

Mini Review – Our Oriental Heritage by Will Durant (Part 1)

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Why should you know history? It tells you how we got where we are today. Why we believe what we believe, why we do what we do. By learning about the past you can also avoid repeating it’s mistakes —- and it’s f***ing fascinating!

This book is ambitious in scope, the series (11 volumes) even more so; trying to summarize the history of civilization itself. This first book alone is 1184 pages. One of many reason to make break this book down to several micro reviews!

My focus for this year will be Ancient Greece, but first I want to read up on the history leading up to it.

The first part of the book talks about the economical, political, mental and moral elements needed for the establishment of civilization.


📝 “I do not have to think. I have plenty of meat”. Not planning for more than today in primitive life had its advantages. When planning for the future you pave the way for property and greed.

📝 Communism appears most commonly in the beginning of civilization. In times of dearth. Fear of starvation fuses the individual into the group. The dream Communism lurks in every modern society as a memory of a simpler and more equal life. “We remember its equality but forget the poverty!”

📝 About taxes: “It was better to pay bribe to one magnificent robber than to bribe them all.”

📝 Women not bearing children are shamed by men in societies that rely on high birth rates to compensate for high death rates.

📝 In primitive society delay between desire and fulfillment is not very long and therefore there is not need to idealize passion.

📝 “Where food is dear, life is cheap.”

📝 In simple days, men married for cheap labour and regular meals.

📝 Is it good to be a virgin or not upon marriage? What is shameful is totally dictated by culture.

📝 “Civilization is not imperishable. It must be required anew by each generation.”

📝 “Magic becomes science.” Magicians needed to give the supernatural a push by using natural means. Stuff that works for real.. 👩‍🔬

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I’m excited to be a student of history again. The world I see everyday makes more and more sense after each chapter I read. 👨‍🎓

5/5

Thoughts on: “Ten Arguments for Deleting Your Social Accounts Right Now” by Jaron Lanier

Social media companies needs us to keep returning to them and to make this happen they collect data about us. That data is used to give us more of what engages us the most and in that way creating wealth for the platforms.

The problem is that what engages us most are content that evokes fear, anxiety and outrage. And that’s what we get!


📝 BUMMER Platforms: Service like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are “driven by a business model in which the incentive is to find customers ready to pay to modify someone else’s behavior.”.

📝 A key point to remind yourself about: For services like a Facebook, we are the product, not the customer.

📝 We talk to our BUMMER connected products like they where humans, but it works even better if we do it in a way that makes you behave more like machines. (I.e. me interacting with my Google Assistant 😂)

📝 Podcasts are still not BUMMER. They are made by real people that are known to the listener. They are build on a sense of personality and context. It’s also harder for the listener to jump from one audio snippet to the next.


⚖️ VERDICT:

This short book only scratched the surfaces of the problematical issues social media brings to the table but does so in a good way!


If you want to get more depth with social media, clickbaiting and algorithms then read these books:

📖 Trust me I’m lying – Ryan Holiday.

Media manipulation and Fake news.

📖 21 Lessons for the 21st century- Y. Harari

How to live in a society of algorithms.

📖 The Shallows: What the internet is doing to our brains – Nicholas Carr

How the internet is changing the way our brains works.

📖 So you’ve Been Publicly Shamed – Jon Ronson

Social media and the renaissance of public shaming.


What book would you add to the list above? 🤔


3/5

Lab Report: Wake up at 5 AM

Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise” – Ben Franklin

The morning hours are very focused. The brain is recharged and there are no distractions. No phone calls, no children running around, no meeting or unforeseen events to attend. Imagine having done 10k running, 30 min mediation and completed the most important task of the day before the rest of the world has taken their first zip of the morning coffee. That’s what we are trying out in this experiment!


The Lab Report – 007 – “Rise Early”

@BenLaing2 (Instagram) asked me if I would like to join him and a group of peps for a challenge; A challenge to rise at 05:30 am for 66 days straight.


Short term effects: ⭐️⭐️⭐️

– It will take a while to get used to going up on time if you are a converting night owl.

– Motivation be unreliable until established a proper morning routine or if you don’t have a strong “Why” for rising early.

– You will immediately feel the momentum building up as task are getting checked off.


Long term effects: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

– 2 extra focused hours each day for 5 years; that’s 3650 hours of effort you can put towards whatever you find most worthwhile in life.

– You will grow to love the tranquility of the dark hours.

– I have a family of deer I see during my morning run. It had become a nice ritual to say hi to them.


Sustainability: ⭐️⭐️⭐️

– Weekends pose an extra challenge since there is an cultural expectation that we should stay up later then.

– This lifestyle is not compatible with late nights, which could be considered a loss.

– You have to go to bed early for this routine to be sustainable.


FINAL VERDICT: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

I never made the full 66-days, but did two good runs of 30(ish) days in a row. Going up early has given me much joy and fulfillment. I love it!


What morning routine do you have, and what is the morning routine that you wished you had? 🤔

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Thoughts on: “To Kill a Mocking Bird” by Harper Lee

I knew nothing about this book going in, except that it is a classic and probably written by an American.

I could have read up on why it is considered a classic and why it has stood the test of time before I started to read it and write about it here. But I didn’t. I enjoy to be thrown into an experience not knowing what to expect – to approach books with a Beginners Mind, so to speak. After posting this I will read up on the history of the book, it’s impact and it’s cult status.


📝 “When I said I could do nothing in a dress, she said I was not supposed to do anything that requires me to wear pants.” said Jean-Louise. Girls where expected play with tea sets and be a sunshine to others.

📝 The chapter about when the kids where tasked to read for the malignant dying morphine addict, Mrs. Dubose, really struck a cord with me.

📝 To kill a mocking bird is to destroy innocence.

My guess is that what makes this book special is the way it challenges gender stereotypes and how it shines a light on prejudices regarding race and class. But maybe even more striking is the beautiful way in which it is written and how it takes you to another time and place.

It’s a great book, but I wouldn’t consider it mandatory reading for my purposes, which is to get a deep understanding of the human condition and what constitutes reality.

3/5

Have you read it? What classics are you intending to read this year? 🤔


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Thoughts on: “Lost Connections” by Johann Hari

For a long time depression and anxiety has been believed to be caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain and the solution is a lifetime pill popping. Hari challenges this idea, both the cause and the solution.

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His research shows 9 very different causes for depression – Disconnection from…

1. Meaningful work

2. Meaningful values

3. Other people

4. Status and respect

5. Childhood trauma

6. The natural world

7. A hopeful and secure future

8. & 9. The real role of genes and brain changes.

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📝 “You are not a machine with broken parts you are an animal whose need have not been met.”

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📝 When asked how many friends people have, “zero” is the most common answer.

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📝 Anxious and depressed people are prone to gaming addiction. Games have groups and teams, clear goals, and provides a sense of control.

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📝 Anti depressant Companies (who often finance studies) only publish what makes their product look good. Just like when we take selfies, we discard the double chins and post the one where we look ace! 🤳

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📝 The more people value things, the more likely they are to be depressed.

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📝 Obesity and loneliness are equally deadly.

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📝 Studies show that depression is in fact to a significant degree a problem not with your brain but with your life.

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⭐️ TAKEAWAY: I have not been depressed myself (I don’t think?) but like most people I have had periods that has been darker and more anxious than others. Reconnecting to the 9 areas pointed out by Hari definitely improved things for me. Whether it was starting to run in nature (6.), Meditation (5.), read books (2.) or work on this Insta account (1. & 3.). Unfortunately “Reconnection” is not as commercially lucrative and easy to package into a product as antidepressants.

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We all have people around us, friends or family members, that suffer from depression. Reading this book helped me gain a deeper understanding why modern society is a breeding ground for mental disorders.

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This books is a serious contender for Book of the Year for me – and it’s only beginning of February. ❤️

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What actions and habits in your life protect you from depression and anxiety? 🤔

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5/5

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Get the book right here or find other amazing reads in my reading lists! Also, if you want more notes from this book then checkout the Extended Notes, right here!

Raw and Unedited Notes from “Lost Connections”

My review could only cover a few of my notes from Lost Connections by Johann Hari. Here is the full set:


Additional Notes:

“You need your nausea, it is a message, it will tell us what’s wrong with you”.

Back then the answer was that depression was a malfunction in the brain. Lack of serotonin.

Cure: anti depressants SSRIs.

Side effect: you getting fat and sweaty.

Back in his youth. His family was unusual because they took pills. Nowadays everyone does it!

Björn comment: I was for the first time, since I was 15, chemically naked this year. Having quit both caffein and nicotine.

Depression and anxiety is very similar and often overlap.

Unhappiness and depression is not the same thing. Don’t say “cheer up!”

“If you expect it to work, for many of us, it will work”

The placebo effect could help almost any medical issue to some degree.

Publication bias: companies (who often finance studies) only publish the papers that make their product look good. Just like when you take selfies, you take several of them and discard all the ones with double chins and post the one where you look ace!

Effects of antidepressants are questionable but the side effects are real!

The drugs he evangelized as a teen wasn’t working and the company was later sued.

There is not much proof that low serotonin levels. Or if serotonin has anything to do with it.

Most popular book about anti depressants: “Listening to Prozac”.

Grief and depression has the same symptoms. Therefor, for a long time there was something called the “Grief exception” when it comes to diagnosing depression. But the time span for that exception has been made shorter and shorter and now it’s non existent.

Studies show that depression is in fact to a significant degree a problem not with your brain but with you you life.

Long term stress and bad events cause depression. Especially a combination of the two.

Depression has three types of cause: biological, social and psychological, this is known as the biopsychosocial- model.


1. Disconnection from meaningful work.

(Connects to Harari idea of meaningful pursuit)

Gallup 2011-2012: 13 percent is engaged in their work. 63 not engaged: Sleepwalking through the day. 23 percent are actively disengaged: busy acting out their unhappiness. Undermine their engaged colleagues.

The higher you are in the herachy the less likely you are to be depressed.

Control is important.

Disempowerment is at the heart of poor health.


2. Disconnection from other people.

Loneliness cause you cholesterol levels to sore.

“Being deeply lonely causes as much stress as being punched by a stranger”

Highly connected people get sick less.

Almost everything becomes more fatal when you are alone: cancer, heart disease, spiritual problems.

Obesity and loneliness are as deadly.

The lonely people are also Anxious , pessimistic , low self esteem and afraid other people will dislike them.

Loneliness usually comes first.

Björns comment: this is what we are doing to our old people…

As hunter gatherers we only made sense as a group.

Stress and anxiety caused by being alone pushed people back to the group (and increased survival odds for the group and the individual)

In a survey: nowadays it’s more common to have zero friends than any other option.

Being lonely and feeling lonely are not the same thing. Feeling lonely is the problem. You need to connect mutually. “It’s the sense that you are not sharing anything that matters with anyone else”.

Anxious and depressed people are prone to internet and gaming addiction. Escaping depression through distraction.

Games have Guilds and team, clear goals, control.


3. Disconnection from meaningful values

The more people value things, the more likely they are to be depressed.

Intrinsic vs. extrinsic values


4. Disconnected from childhood trauma.

Benefits of being obese:

1. Sexually protective

2. Physically protective (prison guards)

3. Reduce people’s expectations of you. You become invisible to humanity is some sense.

Being treated cruel by your parents is the biggest driver of depression out of all childhood traumas.


5. Disconnection from status and respect.

Stress levels are high when ones Status is threatened or low.

The author References the work by Robert Sapolsky.

Status insecurity might be a big culprit.

High inequality = high depression rates.

Even out hierarchies might be a good idea. Today’s world is more unequal than ever.


6. Disconnection from the natural world.

Moving is natural to us. That’s why exercise makes us happy.

Spending time in nature is good for us. We can concentrate better.


7. Disconnection from a hopeful and secure future.

A larger framework for of significance.

Depressed people don’t have a sense of the future. They have a loss of future.

Insecure work create insecure people. 1 day contracts or no contract.. gig economy, not too glamorous for everyone.


8 & 9 :The real role of genes and brain changes.

Neuroplasticity : the brain changes depending how you use it. It’s the tendency for the brain to restructure itself after experience.

Genetics plays a role, but is not staring the show.

The caviat is that genes linked to depression can be triggered by certain environments. Your gene makes you more vulnerable but they don’t control your destiny.

Instead of diagnosing depression – diagnose disconnection?

Rumspringer: Amish 16 year olds spend ~2 years in regular society not needing to follow Amish rules. 80 percent come back. Coming back is voluntary, therefore Amish is not considered a cult.

“Chosen slowness ”

Amish is like a support group for resisting individualism. What weight watchers is for resisting snacking – the amish is resisting individualism.

Reconnect by voluntary programs and clubs.

Bjorns comment: For me it was toastmasters. Different people, common goal.

But depressed people cant do it on their own. It has to be prescribed. Someone need to help them get there. The depressed person just won’t do it by their own.

Top down organizations make the people low in the hierarchy depressed. They feel like cogs in the wheels and without control or influence.

Kids crave stuff… it hurts not to get them.

Björn comment: I dislike some of the solutions. It takes a stand that we are victims of advertisement etc.. well, kids might be. But should adults be able to handle that?

Envy and scarcity- another cause of depression.

‘Sympathetic joy technique’

Björns comment: It sometimes feel the book is written for someone who is depressed. Some Solution and causes can seem very obvious for someone who is not depressed or anxious; like being able to feel joy for other people’s success etc.

Meditation can be very beneficial to combat depression.

Loving kindness meditation.

Experience with LSD.

80 percent that was given the big dose of LSD said to have better relationships, more compassionate and more positive attitudes about themselves and about life. Just like people that meditate a lot!

Researcher gave psychedelic drugs to people that had struggled to quit smoking. 80% where smoke free 6 months after the test.

What does the psycadelics and feel meditation have in common:

“They both break our addiction to ourself”

Smoking becomes quite petty in the perspective of the whole.

Being free from the ego, for 25% of the testers, was terrifying!

“To people who feel safe only behind walls, dismantling them won’t feel like a jailbreak, it will feel like an invasion”

Experiments: doctors where asked to acknowledge a patients childhood trauma, with compassion, and listen without judgement if the patient wanted to talk about it.

This made a huge difference! Reduced shame. “A secular version of confession”

Shame makes you sick. Sealing of a part of yourself and thinking it’s disgusting is toxic to life

Universal income: started in late 70:s. Small town I Canada.

The poorer you are the more likely you are to become depressed and anxious. and to become sick.

Less mood disorder under universal basic income.

People have a secure future, companies need to incentivize people more to work with benefits etc. people felt like they had a choice.

What?! Just give out money?

ADHD was much lower because people spend more time connecting to their kids.

We can leave deadening jobs under universal basic income.

Book tip about gay marriage: ‘Virtually normal’

“The weekend” was mocked as an utopian idea when labour unions started to fight for it!

Universal basic income is possible.

Having fulfilling work is seen as a freak strike of luck, like winning the lottery.

“You are not a machine with broken parts you are an animal whose need have not been met.”


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Lab Report: Quitting the News

“If you get your view of the world from the news, you’re always going to think that we’re living in violent times.”

– Steven Pinker

What’s the message of the mainstream media? Be afraid! Stay inside! Out there are Isis, the 1% staling your money and clowns! No wonder we feel anxious and afraid even though we live in the safest era in human history.


The Lab Report – 006 – “Quit the News”

I stopped following the news about 3 years ago. I don’t read any newspapers, I don’t listen to the radio and I don’t follow any blogs or news feeds.

How has this experiment pan out?


Short term effects: ⭐️⭐️⭐️

– “Fear of Missing Out” might haunt you in the beginning – don’t worry, if it’s important (most news aren’t) you will hear about it.

– Fearmonger stories triggers stress and spikes your cortisol. Without these spikes you can enjoy a stronger immune system.


Long term effects: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

– Reduced fear and anxiety.

– Less drama, more focus.

– The media is experts at masking us feel concerned. Being concerned makes us feel like we are doing something while we’re not. Now you freed up time to do shit.


Sustainability: ⭐️⭐️⭐️

– You might work at a job where you’re unable to control news exposure i.e a places where TVs and radios on all the time.

– Social media feeds can be challenging to manage. I solved it by not looking at social media feeds.

– Ones your out off it, and if you pay attention to the positive effects, then it’s very hard to relapse.


FINAL VERDICT: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Quitting the news is the closest thing I’ve found to a silver bullet for improved happiness and inner peace. 👌🏻 ☯️

Of course you should not take my word for it. Think for yourself. And also -what is the counter argument to what I just said? 🧐 🤔

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